tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23639155402164557272024-03-13T23:14:36.241-07:00Stop Being ImpatientAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17419081860177525070noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2363915540216455727.post-29500190066594713782012-08-21T22:30:00.001-07:002012-08-21T22:30:15.278-07:00<h2 style="color: red;">
<span style="font-size: x-large;">How to deal with a friend who is impatient</span></h2>
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<span style="font-size: small;">Are you stuck with a friend who is impatient? Is your friend habitually <a class="embLink" href="http://www.networktherapy.com/library/articles/How-to-Handle-Someone-Who-Pushes-Your-Buttons/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">pushing your buttons</a>
and constantly rubbing you the wrong way? Can you not brush aside this
‘impatient’ trigger which tends to upset you and avert your peace of
mind? Well, if you are one of those friends beset with similar dark
apprehensions, you are strongly advised to learn ways to overlook the
frailties in your friend.</span><span style="font-size: small;"> </span></h2>
Although patience may be a ‘virtue,’ impatience by itself is not a
vice; it is most simply a shortcoming- - -negligible in some and
prominent in others. And don’t all humans have their peculiar
shortcomings? Have you considered the possibility that perhaps, your
friend’s impatience could be the figment of your own perception? It
could happen that her spontaneous thoughts, impulsive feelings and hasty
actions, are the segments of your personal interpretation of her
attitude to life.<br />
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Now, even if you continue to believe that this
person, with whom you have struck friendship, is truly impatient, it is
up to you to deal with her in the best possible way you can. Your best
bet would be to find ways to take your friend’s so-called impatience in
your stride; accept her friendship and enjoy your friend as she is,
without unduly focusing on changing her.<br />
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Understandably, your
friend’s impatience may turn out to be confusing or even disturbing for
you. In that case, instead of getting unnecessarily perturbed or
annoyed, take a deep breath and <a class="embLink" href="http://voices.yahoo.com/how-deal-impatient-person-1530123.html?cat=3" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">cool down</a>.
Remain calm no matter how peeved you may feel at that particular moment
in time. If you truly care for this particular friend, avoid the
temptation of simply giving up on your friendship by shelving your
friend aside. Do not allow your emotions to disrupt the special bond you
have with your friend.<br />
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Instead, embrace your friend with all the
kindness you can muster. Appreciate her strengths and overlook her
impatience. Believe that you can deal with the situation effectively
with the largeness of heart and generosity of spirit. Recognize that
your friend is human too and has her own peculiar characteristics.
Perhaps that’s the way she is by her inherent nature. Or it could be
that your friend is driven by her passion to achieve more to prove her
worth to her family, friends or her boss.<br />
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Bear in mind that her
oddity may have nothing to do with you being a creature of her own free
will. She may be your friend; but you don’t own her. It would therefore
be most beneficial if you practice tolerance. Make an honest effort to
find out what really aggravates your <a class="embLink" href="http://www.ehow.com/how_8482959_diplomatically-deal-impatient.html" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">impatience</a>
and how best you could avoid it. To help you in your quest of dealing
with a friend who is impatient, remember the following words of the
great American poet and essayist, “To have a good friend, is one of the
greatest delights of life.” <br />
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In the final analysis, it is
entirely up to you to strike a balance and enjoy the many splendor
joys which your friend can bring into your life. Get to know your friend
better. Demonstrate confidence in her potential and ability. This might
prompt her to be less edgy, slow down, and not be overly <a class="embLink" href="http://www.nelsonsnaturalworld.com/en-us/uk/a-z-of-ailments/emotional-health/impatience/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">impatient</a>. Your patience, empathy and persistence, could work together to combat her impatience. Who knows?<br />
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Rest
assured that taking the cue from your positive vibes, your friend would
go out of her way to reiterate her bonds of friendship with you. Once
she realizes that you are not one of those friends who could be easily
ruffled with her impatience, there is every possibility that she would
astutely remain your true, loyal friend till the end of your days. <br />
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How to Avoid Being Impatient While Waiting to See Your Crush</h1>
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<li><b class="whb">Try to do something else to get your mind off of him/her</b>.
You shouldn't obsess; it's unhealthy. If you text them every two
seconds, they'll get annoyed with you, even if they do like you. You
could watch a movie, study, do your homework, go for a walk, read a
book, invite a friend over (NOT your crush), go out with friends, take
up an instrument (or, if you already play one, do that), and many other
things. Don't end up having so much free time that you leave yourself
free to think of him/her or pester them.</li>
<li><b class="whb">Limit your contact with him/her</b>.
Don't constantly text them or check your phone every 5 seconds for a
text or a call. It will only make you think of them more, which will
make the next time you see them seem even farther away.</li>
<li class="steps_li final_li"><b class="whb">Try to get over them</b>. The sooner you do this, the sooner you leave yourself with less opportunities to waste your time.<div class="wh_ad">
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<li>Don't become obsessive. There can be a fine line between love and
obsession, but believe me, you'll know the difference. Ask yourself: do I
just want this relationship, or do I actually like this person? Don't
drag things out longer than they need to go.</li>
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<li>Don't annoy them with constant texts or emails.</li>
<li>Don't call them on the phone only to talk for hours. Your crush has a
life outside of you, and won't like it very much if you take up all of
his/her time!</li>
<li>Don't visit them every day, for the same reasons above.</li>
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<span style="font-weight: bold;">Impatience</span></h2>
What is impatience? It is the frustration, anger, and resentment you
feel when you’re not able to control a situation to your liking.<br />
Why try to overcome this difficult emotion? Because impatience robs
us of our happiness. If we can learn how to melt it away as opposed to
conquering it then we can experience a better quality of life.<br />
Why is patience so difficult to achieve? It’s because it requires us
to be actively passive about a situation. It’s like trying to forget
something. The more you think about it, the harder it is to forget it.<br />
This article will outline the major situations that stir up our
impatience and provide techniques you can use to meet the challenge of
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<span style="font-weight: bold;">What Drives You Up a Wall?</span></h2>
There are 5 major types of situations where we experience impatience. I will address each one in turn. They are:<br />
<ol>
<li> Dealing with Children</li>
<li> Dealing with (Difficult) Adults</li>
<li> Waiting (short time periods)</li>
<li> Waiting (long time periods)</li>
<li> When Things Don’t Work – computers, cars, gadgets, projects, writing, anything that’s not going your way!</li>
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<span style="font-weight: bold;">How to Be Patient</span></h2>
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<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-weight: bold;">1. With Children.</span></span></div>
<ul>
<li><span style="color: red; font-weight: bold;">Understand</span> and accept that
children move at a slower pace. Isn’t that wonderful for them? Maybe not
for you in the moment, but contemplate this and remember the joy of
being a child. Be happy for that child that they have not yet become a
fast moving robot.</li>
<li> <span style="color: red; font-weight: bold;">Slow down</span> to their pace
if you can and enjoy it! The rest of the world can just wait! Of course
there are times you can’t do this, but look for opportunities when you
can.</li>
<li> <span style="color: red; font-weight: bold;">Don’t react negatively</span>
to negative emotions in your child. Try to understand why they are
having that emotion. They get tired and frustrated just like us. Try not
to yell. Instead seek to help them through their emotions. If the child
is tired, find a way as soon as possible for them to take a break. A
hug can go a long way towards diffusing a frustrated child. If the child
is frustrated, model for them how to handle thier frustration
positively. It’s ok to huff and puff and let it out, but then it’s time
to figure out what to do next. Help them with this. (see below “When
Things Don’t Work”)</li>
<li> <span style="color: red; font-weight: bold;">Compassion</span><span style="color: red;">.</span> Remind
yourself that children our vulnerable. They need us to be compassionate.
Taking time out to talk about how they feel will make them a stronger
adult someday. By talking it out, they will feel better and so will you.</li>
<li> <span style="color: red; font-weight: bold;">Snapping out of it</span>.
After discussing it, if the child is having difficulty letting go of the
negative feelings, i.e. wallowing, then help them to get distracted
enough to snap out of it. Humor works great for this. The earlier you
can teach a child to do this the better they will be able to do it on
their own later on.</li>
<li> <span style="color: red; font-weight: bold;">Hyperactivity</span><span style="color: red;">.</span> If you
are in a low energy mode and the child is in high energy mode, the
solution is to get them to work off some of that energy productively. A
trip to the park, beach or a field for some physical activity is
optimal. When that’s not an option, you could set them up with an
activity such as painting, collage making, a dance contest, a backyard
soccer game, whatever. <a href="http://lifelearningtoday.com/2007/05/20/78-parent-child-activities-free-download/" id="c0e9" target="_blank" title="Here is a list of 78 kid activities">Here is a list of 78 kid activities</a> you can also try. <span style="font-weight: bold;">Tip</span>: try to avoid too much sugar and TV as these seem to make kids a little cranky.</li>
<li> <a href="http://lifelearningtoday.com/2007/03/02/good-parenting-resolutions/" title="Good Parenting Resolutions">Good Parenting Resolutions</a> is a helpful resource as well.</li>
</ul>
<br style="font-weight: bold;" /> <span style="font-size: large;"><span style="color: blue; font-weight: bold;">2. With Adults</span></span><br />
<ul>
<li><span style="color: red; font-weight: bold;">Compassion</span><span style="color: red;">.</span> Ask yourself,
“Why does this person act this way?” Seek to understand. You could even
try asking the person. Just be sure to do this in a spirit of compassion
not in anger or judgement.</li>
<li> <span style="color: red; font-weight: bold;">Acceptance</span><span style="color: red;">.</span> If you must
deal with a difficult person, try this: In your mind say to them “I
accept you as you are.” I know this sounds difficult. It can be. But if
you practice it, it does work. You will be sending out positive energy
to them. They will receive it and, actually, so will you!</li>
<li> <span style="color: red; font-weight: bold;">Force Field</span><span style="color: red;">.</span> This may
sound kooky, but I can tell you from firsthand experience dealing with
some very difficult people, that this works. Here’s what you do: Imagine
that you have a force field around you that shields you from
negativity. We don’t have to absorb negativity. We don’t have to lock in
and hook into it. Simply watch it, observe it like a balloon floating
by. Just remember, don’t grab the string of that balloon!</li>
<li><span style="color: red; font-weight: bold;">Avoidance</span><span style="color: red;">.</span> If you can, stay
away or spend as little time as possible with negative people. When
conflict arises with a difficult person, have a goal of moving forward
as opposed to a goal of “winning.”</li>
<li><span style="color: red; font-weight: bold;">Be Prepared</span><span style="color: red;">.</span> Plan how you will react, how you will remain calm, and what you might say.</li>
<li><span style="color: red; font-weight: bold;">Vent Your Feelings Later and Laugh</span><span style="color: red;">.</span> Share your stories later in the day with a friend or loved one and choose to be amused by it rather than angry.</li>
</ul>
<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="color: blue; font-weight: bold;">3. Waiting – Short Term</span></span> (such as waiting in line or waiting at a doctor’s office)<br />
<ul>
<li><span style="color: red; font-weight: bold;">Read</span><span style="color: red;">.</span> Use the time to read a magazine, your RSS feed on your cell <a href="http://www.cards2phone.net/">phone</a> or something you’ve brought with you.</li>
<li><span style="color: red; font-weight: bold;">Write</span><span style="color: red;">.</span> Makes some plans. Write a letter. Journal about your day, feelings, whatever.</li>
<li><span style="color: red; font-weight: bold;">Draw</span><span style="color: red;">. </span>Do some sketching to <a href="http://lifelearningtoday.com/2007/08/03/building-a-smarter-stronger-brain-part-1/" id="fvkn" target="_blank" title="make your brain stronger">make your brain stronger</a>!</li>
<li><span style="color: red; font-weight: bold;">Rest Your Eyes</span><span style="color: red;">.</span> Most of us need this anyway. Close your eyes. Hold your hands over them and restore them a little bit.</li>
<li><a href="http://lifelearningtoday.com/2007/08/07/get-the-creative-time-you-need-3-simple-tips/" id="mevo" style="font-weight: bold;" target="_blank" title="Creative Thinking Time">Creative Thinking Time</a>. We all need time to think about things. Waiting is a great opportunity for this. Try it with your eyes closed.</li>
<li><span style="color: red; font-weight: bold;">Play Games</span><span style="color: red;">. </span>This could be a crossword puzzle or games with people around you. You can play “20 Questions,” Hangman, or Pictionary.</li>
<li><span style="color: red; font-weight: bold;">Choose Not to Get Mad</span><span style="color: red;">.</span> Say
this to yourself. Unless someone’s life is in danger, just let it go. If
someone’s life is in danger, then get out of line!</li>
<li><span style="color: red; font-weight: bold;">Tip</span><span style="color: red;">: </span>Always bring reading or writing materials with you where ever you go!</li>
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<span style="color: blue; font-size: large;"><span style="font-weight: bold;">4. Waiting – Long Term</span></span> (to reach a long term goal, future vacation, party, return of a loved one, purchase you want to make, etc.)<br />
<ul>
<li><span style="color: red; font-weight: bold;">Break It Into Smaller Chunks</span><span style="color: red;">.</span>
If possible, try to segment your goal into smaller compartments. Focus
on today’s portion. Establish mini check points on your way to reaching
that goal and celebrate the smaller accomplishments along the way.</li>
<li><span style="color: red; font-weight: bold;">Distraction</span><span style="color: red;">.</span> Some things
simply require passive waiting such as waiting for a loved one to return
from being away. In this case, keep busy. Work on productive things you
need to get done anyway.</li>
<li><span style="color: red; font-weight: bold;">Occasional Daydream</span><span style="color: red;">.</span> You
won’t be able to help it, so when it happens go ahead and indulge in
happy thoughts about the thing you are waiting for, assuming it is a
good thing.</li>
<li><span style="color: red; font-weight: bold;">Be Present</span><span style="color: red;">.</span> Find ways to
simply be present today so that your complete focus on today crowds out
thoughts of what you are waiting for. Look for the good and the joy in
the moment. This is good to do whether what you are waiting for is good
or bad.</li>
</ul>
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<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-weight: bold;">5. When Things Don’t Work </span></span></div>
<ul>
<li><span style="color: red; font-weight: bold;">Say No to Anger</span><span style="color: red;">.</span> When
starting a project or upon encountering a roadblock, the first thing you
can do that will help you is to decide not to get angry. Anger only
serves to drain your energy which you will need for problem solving.<span style="font-weight: bold;"></span></li>
<li><span style="color: red; font-weight: bold;">Read the Instructions</span><span style="color: red;">. </span>I always jump right in before reading the instructions. If you do this too, and you run into problems, check the manual.</li>
<li><span style="color: red; font-weight: bold;">Slow Down</span><span style="color: red;">.</span> Rushing always brings about accidents and oversights. Take a deep breath and go slow.</li>
<li><span style="color: red; font-weight: bold;">Ask for Help</span><span style="color: red;">.</span> This one is
easy and hard. It’s hard because we think we are burdening people by
asking for help. But most times, people like to be needed, they like to
help, and they find it flattering. It’s easy to do. Just ask. Let your
pride go and focus on your goal of solving your problem.</li>
<li><span style="color: red; font-weight: bold;">Take a Break</span><span style="color: red;">!</span> This is so
important. Sometimes you can’t, but most times you can squeeze in at
least a short break. Longer breaks are better. During this time your
subconscious will be given the space it needs to come up with a solution
for you! This almost always helps! Remember to try this!</li>
<li><span style="color: red; font-weight: bold;">Analyze. </span>Take a step back and
assess whether it is worth your time to continue to work on this
problem. If not, consider aborting the mission and starting anew.</li>
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The Value of Being Impatient</h1>
When I was in graduate school I had to take a "History of Psychology"
course. It's a prerequisite mandated by APA and although the course has
a reputation for being blah--it's mainly a collection of names, dates,
and the now mostly obsolete tools and theories they developed--the
professor did his best to interject <a class="pt-basics-link" href="http://www.psychologytoday.com/basics/humor" title="Psychology Today looks at Humor">humor</a>
and share fun factoids along the way. Three times during the semester
we had an in-class test that constituted of 20 short-answer questions.
In a class of 25, I was always the first one to finish the test. I never
got the highest score, but my goal was to answer as many questions in
adequate fashion to make sure I did well enough, then I'd pack up my
stuff, hand in the test, and go off to get lunch.<br />
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I must admit
that there was a certain amount of fun associated with finishing first.
It was almost like I was in a race (unbeknownst to my classmates) to get
the test over with as soon as possible. It's the closest I've ever come
in graduate school to feeling like a race car driver.<br />
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You can also argue that I was impatient. And indeed, the thought of picking my <a class="pt-basics-link" href="http://www.psychologytoday.com/basics/neuroscience" title="Psychology Today looks at Neuroscience">brain</a>
to squeeze out all the information that was there and then to proceed
to write it all out in order to shoot for a slightly higher grade
drained my energy. So let me go ahead and own it: when it comes to doing
things I don't find valuable, I get impatient.<br />
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I feel the exact
opposite, though, when it comes to doing things I love. I'm more than
happy, for instance, to carry a good, deep conversation for hours. I
don't get tired, I feel energized. And it's the same thing when I do <a class="pt-basics-link" href="http://www.psychologytoday.com/basics/psychotherapy" title="Psychology Today looks at Psychotherapy">therapy</a>.
Even when my clients and I seem to be having the exact same
conversation about the same topic for the tenth time, I enjoy it
immensely because it's part of the process. It's part of the push and
pull. We hit a new challenge, a resistance area, and we're engaged until
we can reach a new plateau.<br />
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Here's what I've learned about
impatience: It's an indicator telling me that I'm either doing something
I don't particularly care for (e.g. taking a History of Psychology
test) or that I'm not fully engaged in what I enjoy doing. If I find
myself getting antsy when I'm talking with a client, for example, it
means that something is not running on all eight cylinders. There's
something about the process that needs attention. Why am I not feeling
present? What buttons does that interaction push in me? Do other people
in my client's life also feel that way when they interact with him or
her?<br />
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The other thing I've come to realize is that impatience goes
hand in hand with intensity. If you're an impatient person, you're
probably also an intense person. I think impatience is intensity that
has gotten blocked or channeled into the wrong stream. When I first
started being a therapist, a couple of supervisors gave me feedback that
I was "intense." I took it as a compliment. I want to be fully there
for my clients, to be present in my interaction, to create an open space
where all the feelings and emotions and insights get explored.<br />
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Sure, it
can feel intense, but that's where the healing happens. I often have
clients who complain about former therapists: "All she did was nod her
head." "He hardly ever challenged my viewpoint or engaged me in real
conversation." And they're talking about a lack of intensity. And, of
course, I bet that there are therapists who hear the opposite from their
clients: "I was looking for someone who'd be quieter and just listen." I
think that intensity is not for everyone, but if I can be accepting and
intense and join forces with my clients (i.e. have an alliance) then
therapy becomes very powerful.<br />
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A lot of times, in the beginning
stages of therapy, a client will say to me that they don't want to feel
depressed or anxious or down anymore. They often qualify it with, "I
know I'm being impatient, but... how long do I have to stay depressed
for?" A classic answer is to emphasize the importance of being patient:
"I know you're feeling this way, but you need to give it time." That
doesn't work for me. If anything, it stifles the intensity. I much
prefer to build on the intensity that the client is communicating, "I'm
also impatient by nature. And it makes total sense that you're feeling
impatient about getting better. Let's work together to do everything we
can to move forward; of course there'll be times when things feel like
they're stuck or even getting worse, but we'll join forces to make
headways. And if for any reason we see we're not moving forward, we'll
explore all other options and see what we can do."<br />
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I like
impatient clients--and not just because they remind me of myself. They
bring energy and intensity and purpose to therapy. They're motivated.
They have an agenda to get better and that's exactly the energy I'm
looking for. I think all of us have that intensity, to some degree, but
we've learned to mask it. And in my experience as a therapist, more
often than not, suffocating the intensity is a large part of why a
person is feeling bad in the first place. <br />
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Patience as we all know is a virtue. Impatience is a frustrating feeling
to have to contend with, and we have all experienced it at some time or
another. If you cast your mind back as far as it will go you will no
doubt remember times as a child when you felt incredibly impatient. As a
child you learn that the desire of "I want it now" is not always
fulfilled.<br />
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The coping style which you learned as a child is generally the pattern
which pops out spontaneously in later life. If you learned that kicking
and screaming loudly enough will result in mom caving in and letting you
"have it now" you are likely to experience severe frustration in adult
life as not everyone else responds like mom did to such behavior!</div>
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If, on the other hand, your mom was firm, soothing and encouraging, you
are likely to have acquired a different mind-set when faced with
inconveniences and potential set-backs. I am clearly painting two
diverse pictures here; the majority of us will fall somewhere in the
spectrum of grey shades which lie within the middle ground. <br />
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It may seem unfair that your reactions towards events in life now are so
dependent upon things which happened years ago, but this is how your
mind works. Every event which we are faced with forms a learning
experience which shapes our expectations of the future. You know
yourself that when you encounter a situation which is in any way similar
to one which has happened before you tend to instinctively associate
with that past event; this effectively triggers similar feelings to
those felt previously.<br />
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Thus if something in the past created a feeling of fear, this same
feeling will pop out in the present whenever you encounter similar
circumstances. If the feeling was happiness, then the same sensation
would be triggered now. Whatever the feeling was then will automatically
pop into your awareness now, without you even consciously thinking
about it.<br />
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Current events and new experiences can of course temper these learned
reactions and coping styles, but it can take a lot of effort to overcome
those instinctive feelings...unless you employ the assistance of
hypnosis. Hypnosis allows access to the part of your mind where your
deeper beliefs and expectations are stored. Hypnosis allows you to
access and to change your instinctive reactions and coping styles.<br />
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Patience is clearly linked to ones levels of confidence. Impatience
usually appears when one feels thwarted, when you don't feel in control
or perhaps feel that your hands are tied. You want something to happen
now, but you cannot seem to do anything to speed things up. A person
with abundant levels of confidence will accept the situation as it is;
they will not fight it or rail against it. Rather, they will work with
it.<br />
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Confidence allows a person to see a situation clearly and to look for
different options. As you think you can do something you find a way in
which to do it. When you think you cannot do something, you do not even
look for those options and opportunities; this leads to frustration and
frequent bouts of impatience.</div>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17419081860177525070noreply@blogger.com0