Thursday, June 7, 2012

Patience as we all know is a virtue. Impatience is a frustrating feeling to have to contend with, and we have all experienced it at some time or another. If you cast your mind back as far as it will go you will no doubt remember times as a child when you felt incredibly impatient. As a child you learn that the desire of "I want it now" is not always fulfilled.

The coping style which you learned as a child is generally the pattern which pops out spontaneously in later life. If you learned that kicking and screaming loudly enough will result in mom caving in and letting you "have it now" you are likely to experience severe frustration in adult life as not everyone else responds like mom did to such behavior!

If, on the other hand, your mom was firm, soothing and encouraging, you are likely to have acquired a different mind-set when faced with inconveniences and potential set-backs. I am clearly painting two diverse pictures here; the majority of us will fall somewhere in the spectrum of grey shades which lie within the middle ground.

It may seem unfair that your reactions towards events in life now are so dependent upon things which happened years ago, but this is how your mind works. Every event which we are faced with forms a learning experience which shapes our expectations of the future. You know yourself that when you encounter a situation which is in any way similar to one which has happened before you tend to instinctively associate with that past event; this effectively triggers similar feelings to those felt previously.

Thus if something in the past created a feeling of fear, this same feeling will pop out in the present whenever you encounter similar circumstances. If the feeling was happiness, then the same sensation would be triggered now. Whatever the feeling was then will automatically pop into your awareness now, without you even consciously thinking about it.

Current events and new experiences can of course temper these learned reactions and coping styles, but it can take a lot of effort to overcome those instinctive feelings...unless you employ the assistance of hypnosis. Hypnosis allows access to the part of your mind where your deeper beliefs and expectations are stored. Hypnosis allows you to access and to change your instinctive reactions and coping styles.

Patience is clearly linked to ones levels of confidence. Impatience usually appears when one feels thwarted, when you don't feel in control or perhaps feel that your hands are tied. You want something to happen now, but you cannot seem to do anything to speed things up. A person with abundant levels of confidence will accept the situation as it is; they will not fight it or rail against it. Rather, they will work with it.

Confidence allows a person to see a situation clearly and to look for different options. As you think you can do something you find a way in which to do it. When you think you cannot do something, you do not even look for those options and opportunities; this leads to frustration and frequent bouts of impatience.

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